Life is like a puzzle

I’m sure most of us like the challenge and excitement of a good jigsaw puzzle!

I personally like to begin with the edges and then find other pieces to bring the puzzle to completion, taking many sneak peaks at the box for tips along the way!

My life has felt very much like a puzzle lately. I remember sections of my life that were all complete; my family life, my home life, my friends .. everything seemed to be in place; whole. 

But then, it seemed as though all of the pieces of my life were put back in the box, shaken up and laid out in front of me …. 

I have been trying to put myself back together for some time but the pieces that were whole before didn’t look the same anymore?! There were also extra pieces that were not there previously .. where were they supposed to fit in?

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I tried to make them fit into places where it felt they were supposed to go, but it wasn’t right .. they just didn’t feel right. It was uncomfortable, it wasn’t what I was used to.

So, I started again .. and as always I began with the edges. The pieces of my life holding everything together.

The four edges: my children, my family, my friends and most importantly, my faith.

Focusing on these pivotal elements helped me to begin to, once again, feel like myself .. happy!

The rest of the puzzle just seemed to fall into place from there and, although removing some pieces was not easy, it was necessary in order to feel that peace I once knew.

I’m sure there are still many pieces to fit but I am beginning to see which should and should not be there and also, to be OK with that too!!

But, as with any good jigsaw, it is going to be both challenging and exciting and I am so very thankful for the opportunity to begin again!

Life is like a puzzle .. never waste time trying to place pieces where they don’t fit

Fear ends where faith begins

You may never realise just how powerful faith really, is until it’s the only option you have…

It took faith for me to sign up for something  that could excel our business to new heights. I learned so, so much from the experience and, although it highlighted many things that still need to be done behind the scenes, I am so thankful that I took that leap! I procrastinated for many many months thinking that it wasn’t for me but I’m so glad that I did it and I would do it again .. and encourage other business owners to do so too.

It took faith to trust that a recent, difficult situation would work out for good. I know that every business, at one time or another, must face situations that test them, push them to their limits and often make them feel like packing it all in but everything we experience should help us to evaluate, learn from and grow stronger.

It took faith to believe in the dream that my husband had, a dream to build a business from scratch and to step into the world of entrepreneurship. 

Deciding to work for yourself can bring along a mountain of fears with it;

  • Will I be able to support my family?
  • Am I really good enough to do this for myself?
  • Will anyone buy my product?
  • What happens if I become unwell?
  • What if my business fails?
  • Will I cope with the demands and responsibilities if I become successful?”

This amount of fear can make you feel so powerless but as soon as we take that first step, that giant leap of faith .. we take all that power away from our fears and channel it with full force into our dreams!

When you have faith in yourself, your abilities, your skills and talents, there isn’t a force on earth that could deter you from pushing forward.

When you believe in what you do and the difference you can make in the lives of others, even on your worst day, you will have an inner drive that won’t let you quit on yourself.

When the people around you have the same level of faith in what you can achieve, the same belief in all that you can accomplish, you can fight against any fearful thoughts that try to creep in and put you off!

Fear is temporary, regret is forever

Remember why you started

Starting something new can be both exciting and scary but no matter which emotion it evokes, there is always a reason behind the decision.

If you want to get fit, you decide to sign up to the gym but if you’re feeling a little body conscious, this could make you feel slightly apprehensive.

Maybe you want to go to university to get the degree you missed out on when you were younger. Being in a lecture theatre filled with teenagers can be quite a daunting thought, especially if you’ve been out of education for a very long time.

Whatever the situation is and regardless of how it makes you feel, your focus should remain on the reason WHY and not the excuses creeping in to change your mind…

Your reason behind wanting to get fitter could be based on health reasons. You may have been recently diagnosed with high blood pressure and really want to get back to good health. That should be enough to get you through any anxiety you may feel about how you look compared to others.

With regards to the degree, your career may depend on it and in order to succeed professionally, you have to achieve it so even if you are the oldest student in the room, that should not deter you from your goal.

When you remember the important things, it helps to motivate and push you forward. There will always be an excuse to try and put you off but your opportunity may only be a one time offer. If you want your goal badly enough, you’ll do whatever it takes to reach it and when you do get there … smash it!!!

You can have results or excuses … the choice is yours!

Slow and steady wins the race…

Where did the last week go?!

I’ve been moving so slowly recently because our family was suffering from a cold, all of us in different forms i.e. headaches, runny noses, coughs, sneezes etc. My husband and older son could look after themselves (to a point, at least!) but dealing with myself and the baby was really draining … I just could not get the energy to do any work so you can imagine how my to-do-list looked!

I know that there will always be an ‘unscheduled event’ that occurs throughout the day, week or month. For example, our little one is currently teething and it’s very hard work indeed – for both of us! This one is tooth no.7 so I know that there’s much, much more to come … and then some!!

To us adults, babies seem to develop rather quickly but for them, each step takes quite a long time to perfect. When learning to sit up, a baby will fall backwards or to the side many times before their little muscles are strengthened enough to hold them up in a seated position. Learning to walk consists of plenty of tumbles and bumps too, but they do not give up!

I should take an example from our little one because with each milestone he’s achieved, he slowly and steadily persevered to master it and I know he’ll slowly work out those first steps to begin walking and tick yet another box on the milestone list. And if he’s not stressed about his “to-do list”, why should I be?!

Although we’re all back to full health now, it’s still been hard to catch up with everything I lacked energy for last week! I was telling my husband how I was feeling and he simply said, ‘the tortoise won, didn’t he?!’ Which was his way of telling me to keep going! No matter what happens in our lives, endurance is key so even if the situation is difficult, we cannot give up!

“It doesn’t matter how slowly you go,

as long as you do not stop”