What you focus on, grows 

I hit a wall! I was becoming increasingly overwhelmed by all the things I could not do and had no idea how to overcome.

I thought I’d be seen as a failure for not being able to keep up, not being able to hit the mark and I really wanted to just give it all up…

So, I took a step back. Well, a few steps if I’m honest! I had to look at everything that was getting on top of me and try to choose just one thing to focus on, just for now.

I chose to complete an online course I’d begun a few months back. I enrolled on the course to help me with our business however, the more the business grew, the less time I had for my studies.

I knew I had to complete the course however the excuses were piling up … ok, maybe not excuses so much but let’s say my priorities were all over the place! Although the course was started to help me progress in my role, I realised how great the other consequences would be if I did not complete it.

From a financial aspect, if the course (which was free) was not completed by the end of the academic year, I would incur a charge. There was no way I was going to pass up qualifying for free because I didn’t have the time!!

As a parent, I could not continue to encourage my children to “never give up”, “finish what you started”, or say “you’ve got this” in all honesty if I did not take my own advice and complete the course! The whole family had seen me in many a stressful mood when my assessments were due in and each had been as helpful as they could be throughout.

Whatever I do or say, I’m a constant example to my children and so, you can imagine how wonderful it was to share with them that mummy had successfully completed her course!!! They were as pleased for me as I was for myself and as soon as that certificate of accreditation arrives, I’m framing it!

“Don’t stop until you’re proud”

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Slow and steady wins the race…

Where did the last week go?!

I’ve been moving so slowly recently because our family was suffering from a cold, all of us in different forms i.e. headaches, runny noses, coughs, sneezes etc. My husband and older son could look after themselves (to a point, at least!) but dealing with myself and the baby was really draining … I just could not get the energy to do any work so you can imagine how my to-do-list looked!

I know that there will always be an ‘unscheduled event’ that occurs throughout the day, week or month. For example, our little one is currently teething and it’s very hard work indeed – for both of us! This one is tooth no.7 so I know that there’s much, much more to come … and then some!!

To us adults, babies seem to develop rather quickly but for them, each step takes quite a long time to perfect. When learning to sit up, a baby will fall backwards or to the side many times before their little muscles are strengthened enough to hold them up in a seated position. Learning to walk consists of plenty of tumbles and bumps too, but they do not give up!

I should take an example from our little one because with each milestone he’s achieved, he slowly and steadily persevered to master it and I know he’ll slowly work out those first steps to begin walking and tick yet another box on the milestone list. And if he’s not stressed about his “to-do list”, why should I be?!

Although we’re all back to full health now, it’s still been hard to catch up with everything I lacked energy for last week! I was telling my husband how I was feeling and he simply said, ‘the tortoise won, didn’t he?!’ Which was his way of telling me to keep going! No matter what happens in our lives, endurance is key so even if the situation is difficult, we cannot give up!

“It doesn’t matter how slowly you go,

as long as you do not stop”

What am I thinking?

What am I thinking? Most of the time it’s the mundane issues such as “Are there enough clean school shirts for the rest of the week?”, “Did I defrost the chicken for dinner?”...

But sometimes, my thoughts are a little deeper, more intense and can often leave me feeling overcome with negative feelings. Thoughts become actions so if I allow myself to become overwhelmed, how will this show in my behaviours, my words…

Thankfully, thoughts can be changed! We can purposely choose what we want to meditate on and change our mindset.

For example, with the housework I can change the following thoughts from “There’s just too much to do and the baby won’t settle enough to even begin” to “I’ll tackle the smaller tasks while baby’s playing and get on with the others when he takes a nap

Wow, just typing that out made me feel a little better!!

Here’s where a good to-do list comes in handy .. I have mine on an app and I can take one task and break it down into subtasks so it makes life just that bit easier. Oh, the joy I feel ticking a box as ‘completed’, even if it is just one subtask out of five!!!

Planning your day in advance can have a positive effect on how you think. If you plan the night before, you can sleep well knowing there are steps in place to keep your life in order, instead of going to bed worrying about all the things that need doing in the house … see how easy it is for the negative thought spiral to begin!

Relax, and take things one step at a time and be thankful for every task you successfully complete, no matter how small it is!

“There are two things you are in total control of in life:
your attitude and your effort”